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How Do YOU Self-Identify?!

How do you Self-Identify? For some, they only identify themselves as their nationality. For example, a young African American female would just be labeled as a black female. But what if she didn't see herself as JUST a black female? What if she saw herself as half black and half Mexican lesbian? What if there is a young male who's white and he sees himself as a female? We cannot judge people because of how they identify. I went to conference back in March called SROW, and one of the classes that I attended was talking about pronouns and how to talk to someone who is apart of the LGBTQ+ Community. For those who do not know the full acronym or what it means here it is: LGBTTQQIAAP, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual. The speaker was a female but didn't go by the pronouns of "she" or "her". The speaker went by the pronouns of "them", "they" or "us". Which brought me to a shock because I never thought of that when I talk to people and who are females, I automatically call them "her" or "she" or even "ma'am". After that day I try to talk more in third person to make sure that I don't offend people because I find it awkward trying to see how to ask people what gender do you go by when most of the people in the LGBTQ+ Community is scared to come out and are living a secret life so they can please the people around them. Listed below are the definitions of each: