In today's society, we idolize side chicks. Why? Honestly, I have no clue. What is fun about KNOWING you are breaking up a happy home or couple? It's not in any way shape or form to be PROUD that you are a side chick. We have a lot of artists out there making music encouraging men and woman that it is okay to be a side chick/man. When it's not. Why do we want to downgrade our standards to be "loved". If you ever realized that if that person does leave their significant other for you that, nine times out of ten they will do the SAME EXACT thing that you were doing with them when you got with them to you with someone else. Personally, I believe that you should take a step back and realize that you are worth more than what you are putting out there. Find yourself and realize that you love yourself more than love having sex with that person or that you want whatever that they are giving you. You are loved, but you cannot see it because you do not love yourself enough to realize that. Honestly, Karma yeah she's definitely a bitch. She will come back around and bite you in your ass!
So I asked a few of my followers on twitter the following questions:
Are you a side chick?
Yes 12%
No 88%
If you answered yes, do you like the status of not being in a relationship but having consent sex with that person?
Yes 58%
No 42%
If you answered yes to being a side chick, do you like that you don't have to do much because they are going home to their significant other?
Yes 47%
No 53%
Were you ever a side chick?
Yes 56%
No 44%
What made you stop being a side chick?
"I was a side chick and didn’t ever know. In college people be having secret gf’s and wives and kids that nobody knows about until a holiday lmao"
"We grew up. It was cool while it lasted because we both got what we wanted at that time, but eventually we stopped wanting that. We mutually decided to let that go"
"Honestly I did not stop being a side chick until I realized she would not leave her boyfriend for me. No matter what I did or how much better I was to her it didn’t matter. I started to realize I was wasting my time and being essentially manipulated. "
Why do you think that society praises side chicks so much?
"Side chicks give some people a sense of security. If something happens to their actual relationship they know they will not have to be alone."
"Side chicks also do it for the excitement and the "social media" break when the other person finds out about it"
Do you believe that side chicks are downgrading their selves?
Yes 47%
No 22%
Kinda 31%
How does/did being a side chick affect you mentally/physically/emotionally?
"I didn’t care or feel bad about myself bc I didn’t know about the girl. I felt bad for her though she deserved better."
"In the beginning being a side chick is fun. You have no real cares and you can do whatever you please. However, when your feelings start getting invested that is when it becomes an issue. You become emotionally attached to someone who more than likely does not feel the same way you feel for them. The person I was seeing would always say they were leaving their relationship and give me false hope that we would actually be together. Mentally I would always question what I was doing wrong or why I was never good enough for her."
Being a side chick is publicized as being in and fun, but honestly, it isn't. You are hurting yourself more than anything. Don't get me wrong I had my fun and I did things as well, but as you get older and start to realize not all isn't fun. Cheating isn't fun and karma is still a bitch. So my advice to you if you are a side chick is to stop and take a look back and evaluate your life and your situation and think if you were in the main piece's place would you be okay with a side chick being around? Or would you be hurt and confused about why they even felt the need to get a side piece?
